Mom has leaky eyes this week. She lost a friend to suicide a few days ago and it's been hard to cope. It was a sudden loss (aren't all suicides?). This one is tough as this person is the last person you thought would end his own life. He was a firefighter, a father, a friend to many. He posted inspirational quotes and songs on Facebook and even talked a few people out of attempting suicide. He contacted mom after our first fire to ask if we needed anything and were ok. He picked up the phone. Who does that these days? We are so involved in technology and particularly social media we often don't pick up the phone anymore or have face to face conversations. Mom will always remember that he picked up the phone to find out how we were doing. Don't get me wrong, all the Facebook, twitter and blog luv was great but sometimes you need to hear a voice, see someone in person, get a hug. It's no secret mom has struggled since our 2 fires. She has experienced nightmares and some depression as a result. It's tough to ask for help, especially when you don't know how people are going to respond. Mom has lost a few friends because of her struggles and that makes me sad. Friends are supposed to be there for each other - especially in times of need. Us kitties are there for each other. We can be there for our humans too! I'm not much of a lap kitty since the fires. Something has changed in me but I still like to sit next to mom and purr to let her know I luv her. Sisfur Mia isn't a lap kitty really either but she does something really cool, she hugs mom! Yep, that's right, she will climb up on to mom's lap, crawl up real close to her face then wrap her paws around her neck and HUG her. It is the darndest thing to see! Yep... just like in this picture! You can't see the paws around mom's neck but they are there!
And it's the reason why mom adopted Mia last year. See... mom volunteers at Wayside Waifs and likes to work with the shy kitties to help them get adopted. Mia was one of those shy kitties. When mom opened the kennel door Mia came right to the front of the kennel and put her paws on mom's chest then reached up to hug her. Mom couldn't believe it! She never had a kitty hug her like that before. She knew right then that Mia had chosen her as her new adopted family. That's how Mia came to be my sisfur. Oh Mia's a pain in the rump all right. She chases me around, plays with my toys and eats my food but when she hugs mom... well that's priceless!Anipals take care of your humans! Whether it's a hug, a hop in the lap for a nap or just sitting next to your human so they can hear you purr.. let them know you luv them especially when you sense they are hurting. A little luv can go a long way to help each other!
Please tell you mom that we are very sorry. We wish people would reach out to each other more often and ask for help....but it can be so hard. We are glad Mia found her way to you both (even if she is a pain sometimes).ReplyDelete
I am so sorry for your human's loss. This man sounds like a really great guy, and how tragic this is. Even though my human is totally annoying much of the time, we kitties are all very loyal to her and trust her and she knows it.ReplyDelete
We're so sorry to hear about your Mom's friend. It's so hard to reach out for help, especially when the person is at a low. Sending your Mom lots of hugs during this difficult time. We're glad she has the both of you. xoxoReplyDelete
*HUGS* to you. I am beary sawry fur ur loss.ReplyDelete
Awww pal, we're so very sorry your mom lost such a good friend suddenly. How very sad. We'll be purraying and purring for your mom so she heals and doesn't have to be experiencing nightmares anymore. How horrible for her. M sends her a bid HUG>ReplyDelete
Sending comforting purrz to your Mom. I’m not a lap cat, I don’t hug or purr but sometimes I do give kisses when I see TW crying.ReplyDelete
We're so sorry to hear about your mom's friend. It's very sad. We're glad she has you and Mia to help her feel better. Hugs and purrs to her.ReplyDelete
TBT here: Sometimes the best people are struggling with inner problems that are hard for the rest of us to see. My thoughts to you and all about this loss.ReplyDelete